Characteristics of Divorced Moms A single mom has to be tough, independent, patient, real, practical, fun, selfless, nurturing, and picky about the right man for her and the kids. I mean, I am one of those moms who gets my son's foot measured on the regular to make sure he doesn't need the next size up. I do not want to sound desperate, besides to complicate issues I had to undergo surgery and had no choice but to tell him about it.. We started dating just after Labor Day. Which means that even if many widowers throw themselves into new relationships because of their tremendous loneliness, THIS one seems to be functioning more like your basic super-successful middle-aged man. What do I want at this stage of my life? Personally, the only way a man I date will even breathe the same air as my child is if he survives the firing squad of loved ones looking out for us this time around. Our children are an extension of us. I elevate reasoning with the unreasonable to an art form. He says he has always taken it slow in dating and this is nothing new. Hell, I even wonder whether I should be concerned that his favorite character on "Scooby Doo" is Shaggy he's obviously a stoner with a perpetual case of the munchies.