Go with the flow and if something feels right and good and sexy in the moment, then do it! I feel pretty comfortable with my decision to not introduce any toys or gadgets the first time. We tend to think that first-time sex -- assuming it's the beginning of a beautiful relationship and not a one-night stand -- doesn't really need any accessorizing. Just think of it as having something to look forward to. For some, thinking about how to communicate while also trying to appear sexy and provide pleasure sends their brain into meltdown. Talk It Over with Yourself First Having an honest conversation with yourself about sex is just as important as discussing it with your partner, experts say. We see great things for the two of you in bed. The woman may assume sex implies a commitment; the man may not see it that way," Allen tells WebMD. First-time sex with a new partner is serious sensory-overload. Still, I don't want him to be disappointed once we finally do get around to it. How great should the sex be the first time if I want this guy to stick around? Should I say that I'd prefer au natural at first and promise we'll get to the toys on another occasion?